“No point of crying over spoiled milk. Go to the store and buy more.”
I admire how all my directors and managers are invested in my career. Had a wonderful dinner talk with my VP the other night. She put a lot of things in perspective for me. As a young black independent woman, I tend to push myself more than others. What I fail to realize is some goals are meant to come in stages and might take more time than I think. Me moving to a different state a young age has taught me a lot about the type of person I am and the type of person I want to be. More over it has taught me to value my life more. I often blog about me trying to juggle relationships, career, love, and my passion all at once but reality is we as humans can’t do this all at once. Its similar to have all four-stove burners on high eventually something is going to burn out. So instead it might be useful to have some burners on low and the others on high. It’s all about what is important to you in life now. I saw “My weed man” over the weekend. It was fire and desire until the condom broke. I just got out of a situation and don’t need to go into another one. Our plan was to go get checked out together but that didn’t happen. No phone call or text. So I went by myself and found out that everything is okay. I don’t have anything to worry about. One thing I didn’t appreciate from “My weed man” is how he over reacted to the whole situation. I don’t need that in my life. I don’t need another man coming trying to make me feel a certain about myself. I am comfortable and content with my life right now. Right now I need my career and passion life on high and my love life on low. One thing my VP explained to me about life is when you stop looking for it; it comes to you naturally. As bad as I want to move up in my company right now I cant. All I can do take feedback and use it to my advantage. Right now I can’t have a love life because I’m too busy focusing on my career and passion. One day it will make sense and all this effort will pay off. Just hoping that one is soon. Until then, I will still be the single independent black woman moving ahead in life.