As a woman it’s only fair to separate your heart from your pussy. How not to rely on sex from a man when its good is a strength some woman can’t obtain. When I really like someone, I really like them. I take into consideration how of a great combination we would be. I guess that’s my biggest problem, I love too hard. And when you love someone hard, its truly hard to them let go. I have never been the type of woman to hold on to something for too long. I peep, I see, and I move on. Lately, I have been receiving a lot of attention from too many men. As bad as I want to feel empowered, I kind of don’t want it. Too many personalities and too many emotions to deal with. I have been in a happy place for the past couple of months. Some days when I'm down I go into a place of hiding and wanting to be left alone. Alone with me, myself, and my thoughts. I didn't blog for a while because of this. Sometimes you just need that inner peace. When I finally did step out into the night light, I had everyone asking where have I been. Little did they know, I was always out, I just moved in silence. So you might ask what does me not blogging and having inner peace have to do with the separation of your pussy from your heart? Well my wonderful reader, it has a lot to do with it. See me taking time to find inner peace for myself really taught me how to tolerate different situations. At the end result of every situation is yourself still having that peaceful Ora around you. I call this "positive vibes" or "positive energy". With that and men that I do date, I keep my emotions separated from the sex. Unless it's someone I can truly see a future with and we have had that conversation. Not every guy we as women meet can be considered "the one". Some are merely just there just because. No reason at all, just because. As I approach my train stop, I will leave you with this thought...some days it's harder to make lemonade with the lemons that are given. And that's just comes with being young black and living.
“But I love him”- Says every girl that’s in love with the wrong guy
It’s not that I’m mad at you; I’m more disappointed in you. How could a woman like yourself get caught up in this mess? Listen, you are worth way more than what he is giving you. You placed yourself in this hole only to crawl right back out. Why? If a man truly wants to be with you for you, he will. But the simple fact is you continue to stalk and have sex with him. Giving him all of you and he only giving part of him. You shouldn’t have to worry about if he’s messing around with any other chick. That’s your problem! You too busy focusing on what someone else is doing instead of worrying about what works best for you. Besides good dick and bubble gum, what can this “man” provide for you? Is he someone you can depend on? Is he someone you can grow with? Look at you! Being an emotional wreck at work. You allowed him to suck all your positive vibes out of you. To only be left with crazy stalker-ish ways. You stalked his snap chat and he blocked you. You can’t enjoy your best friend birthday because this situation is on your mind. What happened to you? You were going in all right directions. And now…..you wake up in the middle of the night crying over him. You thought you were fighting for this “situation-ship” (because let’s be real this is not a genuine relationship). You should have known from the looks of the ghetto rachet chicks he fucks with. Time after time you was ready to step away. Every time he pulled you right back. After that whole ex fiasco, you should have walked away. Now look at you, feeling all used. You have so many good things going on right now but it’s hard for you to enjoy it all because of this situation-ship. Listen, get up and walk away from it silently. Don’t make another fuse. Get back to feeling great about you. When the right one comes you will know. Yes, it will be hard because the feelings are deeply involved. You love him and some way he loves you back. But as woman (pause); A black woman you have to hold your self to a higher standard. And some how this cloud that’s over you will soon pass over. Now black queen, go wipe tears away. Get up and get ready for work because something tells me it’s going to be a brighter day.