“Once you know what you want, do something about it every day”
Gonna keep this one short and sweet!
Well, damn people! I made it stage 28 in life. I can genuinely say I’m happy with my career. It’s funny how life sets you up. I went from corporate to bartending/managing and now taking on the role as coordinator of events and managing at the club is where I wanted to be in life. And even at 28, there are still characteristics of myself that I want to change. After my birthday hiatus and being hungover for 2 days, I decided to give alcohol a break. Not a week or two but forty days and forty nights. This is the spiritual cleanse that I may need and is something that I have wanted to challenge myself to do for a very long time. At 28, I want to challenge myself to push myself more into the things I want to see done in my future. And for this blog, this is going to be the most challenging step yet this year. See the irony in this? All the more reasons why not to date her.
I told myself I was done with “This skin fella” and after my last post, I thought for sure we were done. I can’t lie and say I don’t have a soft spot in my heart for him because, in reality, I do. Some days, I’m like “OMG” I really like him. And then it’s other days where I think about other guys who I have dated or currently dating and see what their expectations of dating are vs. what we have going on. And I think to myself well maybe he is going to change. But as a woman, I know a guy will never change for a female. If he is going to change then, he will do it on his own. And that’s just that. So now I’m sitting here thinking is this a waste of “our” time. We had a recent fall out where he even questioned us. If I would have known him and his ex recently broke up in November and not August I probably would not be all in my feelings over him. As of a matter of fact, I would be still sending him off. I know I am a handful and tend to think with my emotions. Again, a characteristic of myself at age 28 that I need to change. See the irony in this? All the more reasons why not to date her.
I went to sleep last night with just wanting to sleep. Didn’t even think about him not laying next to me. I just wanted to sleep. Earlier yesterday I went to the gym. I felt relieved. I forgot how the gym can be very therapeutic for a soul like myself. I have a lot of creative juices that are flowing right now. WOW! What a perfect time but to focus. Guys always ask me what else is that I do besides working at the bar. I tell them, “I am a blogger. I blog about my life and relationships. Don’t date me you may end up as material.” They laugh until they read it and see how serious I am. See the irony in this? All the more reasons why not to date her.
“This is just part 1”......
A fuck boy in disguise is what I want to call him. And to be honest, if I had a chance to say it to his face it would probably make me feel a lot better. Like I didn’t know about the girlfriend, the girlfriend didn’t know our past either. That was until she read the blog. Now don’t get me, wrong people, I tell every guy I date about my blog. And “This One” knows he is mentioned several times in it. So why you bring your girlfriend to my event that is based around my blog that you are mentioned in? Did you not think that she was going to read it and put two and two together. As a woman, I can only imagine the way that she feels. But a part of me doesn’t really care. As always, I am doing what best for “This One,” and that's not talking to him at all anymore. However, this is more than likely the best for me. See the irony in this? All the more reasons why not to date her.
Friends remember the first guy I had sex within the beginning of the year? Well, guess who is currently spending more time together? We are! “This light skin fella” had grown on me. But the differences I have had with others in the past is affecting us. I told myself I would never bring up anything that happened in my past situation-ships to my current ones. But I can’t deal with another lie, another wondering, and wasting more of my time. I think our biggest thing is communication. Granted sometimes I don’t communicate with him when I’m staying at work late. And he never communicates with me he is not coming back over. I understand every person is not perfect. I’m not looking for the ideal person. I know that doesn’t exist. But I am looking for communication and consistency and a level of respect for both of us. I keep expressing how I don’t want someone just to fuck on. I’m looking for someone I can build with. And since I started off the year with him like that, maybe he isn’t the one. See the irony in this? All the more reasons why not to date her.
Overall, my event was a success. I had a great turn out regardless of the hiccups along the way. I made sure everyone there had a great time. I have a couple more events up my sleeve in the next month. At one point in January, I felt I had a lot going on. Too much and I couldn't grasp everything. I had to check myself to make sure I wasn’t going into a panic attack or back to depression. But like always, everything happens for a reason. And I could not be more grateful for my new job position at the club. I took some time yesterday during the polar vortex to self reflect on life. I know what I want. I see myself going into that direction. I looked myself in the mirror and said, “Chill, you got this.” Took a couple of deep breathes and was able to complete this blog. See the irony in this? All the more reasons why not to date her.
“And now this is part 2”…..
I really hope that one day this blog gets picked up by some TV network and offers for me to turn this into a show or something. Brace yourself, people, because shit just got real!
Here I am standing here with both of them in my face. Knowing that I blankly had sex with one earlier that day and knowing that there is a possibility the other one wants to have sex. Didn’t mean for it to go down like this but it did. I was upset with “This light skin fella” because he didn’t come over for Valentine’s Day. He completely blew me off. In my mind, I’m thinking, “this is it, I’m officially done with him.” My other guy friend came over that morning to look at an apartment. I was laying in bed when it happened. The entire time “This light skin fella” is blowing up my phone. He looked over and saw who it was calling me. He questioned who it was, and I couldn’t lie to him anymore. I told him about us. He was kind of pissed at me and that fact that neither one of us mentioned it to him. I could have continued to not answer for “This light skin fella.” But at this point, he didn’t care. I expressed to “The light skin fella” that my guy friend was over here looking at an apartment which in fact he was. I kept my cool around both of them. My guy friend did tell me something about “This light skin fella” that validated all thoughts in my head. And when I asked “This light skin fella” about it, he lied to my face. The worst thing you can do is lie to me. So here I am thinking to myself whats better; to go hardcore crazy woman on him or keep my cool? But wouldn't be funny if my guy friend and I really had sex? See the irony in this? All the more reasons why not to date her.
It’s always some type of excuse on why we can’t go out. At this point, I'm over it. Why is it that I can call my other guys that I am dating and we can go out on actual dates. It’s not always about sex. This just isn’t going to go anywhere. I’m not going to make a scene. I will politely walk away. And if he ever asks, I would just tell him, “it’s not you; it's me.” “I know what I want. And what we are doing is something I don’t want”. See the irony in this? All the more reasons why not to date her.
Next week, I will be 28, and I’m still mother fucking single! But I can’t complain that I have been successful in whatever career choice that I have made. If I could only make the same decisions when it comes to men. Since “This One” my trust with men is completely thrown off. Maybe its time for me to retake another break. I keep telling myself this but always find myself sitting there on a date with a guy in my face. I told myself after my birthday, I was going to go on a detox to myself ready for the spring. As I move into this new role, things are harder than what I am used to. So I questioned myself, is something I really want? Then I remembered, “move with a strategy, not with emotion.” See the irony in this? All the more reasons why not to date her.
“Him: Why are you single? I mean you are gorgeous, hard worker, you got your own, and no kids! So you mean to tell me no guy has wifed you yet?
Me: Because I ain’t shit literally…”
I did the first thing I said I wasn’t going to do in 2019 and that's having sex with someone that I have no emotional ties to. Why I did it? A temptation of course. Was it good? It was average. Could I see myself with him? Possibly, but the fact of the matter he knows someone else that I also mess around with is taunting me. I am aware that eventually, I do need to make a decision on which one I am going to fuck with. But until one of them wants to be exclusive with me, I’m going to keep this going. See the irony in this? All the more reasons why not to date her.
2018 opened my eyes a lot. I was broken down at my lowest and was forced to ask for help financially. You might look at me and say, “damn Tati is a true go-getter.” And though that statement might be very true, I can not forget the times that I cried scrapping up money to pay rent. I don't regret ANY decisions I’ve made in 2018. Why? Because those lessons also set my future and placed me in a position to network even harder. My mom always asks me what my end goal is. And I always tell her, my end goal is this blog. Funny thing is in 2018 I kept running into people who have asked me the same question. Because like her they believe its something more to me than bar/nightlife. I can not express enough how much I love what I do. I can not express enough how proud I am of myself with making a jump from up north sports bars to semi-upscale bar/nightclubs. And though there are sometimes where you do get tested, and caddy situations can arise; I am telling myself if it doesn’t make me money, it doesn’t make me happy. Therefore I don’t want any parts of it. See the irony in this? All the more reasons why not to date her.
Any guy that I have dealt with in a significant way hit me up, and I’ve spent time with them during the last week in 2018. “My Love” popped up at my house while I was on a date with the guy I mentioned earlier. Same shit with “My Love” that its always going to be. He is not moving to Chicago, and I’m not moving to Indianapolis, and he doesn't want to do a long distance relationship. After our vicious feud at my job, “The Promoter” and I are slightly talking again. We agreed two wrongs don’t make a right, but I still can’t get over the fact he felt I was pushing him into a relationship. Oh Boy! If could see the number of texts that come through my phone daily, maybe he would understand I make every guy feel like that way. My “New York Boo Thang” never fails me when he comes to Chicago. Fancy dinner, fancy hotel room, and a flight to either Miami or New York next month. I like him. But like me, he works A LOT! However, someone has to secure the bag for artists to come in and do bottle service right? And last but not least, “This One.” I know I told yall that I have stopped talking to him, but I thought him and his girl was over with because he never mentions her. FALSE! I sold him a table for NYE and who does he bring with him? His girl! It took everything in me not to be petty and lash out. And a part of me was hurt when I saw them kiss. But I was the bigger person and introduced myself to her, gave her a hug, and thanked her for coming out. In the end, I don’t think he wanted to introduce us but if we are “friends” what is the problem? So I’m taking that as a sign just to leave him alone. See the irony in this? All the more reasons why not to date her.
2019 is nothing but daily affirmations for me, bigger goals, and events galore for my blog! By the way get your tickets now for Ladies Night Out Jan 20th ladiesnightoutexperience.eventbrite.com. I’m excited about this event but even more excited about my future. I am going after anything I want. There will be no holdbacks! And if you still wondering why not to date me after reading this, then grab a seat and pour some wine because I have a lot more to say. See the irony in this? All the more reasons why not to date her.
“Sometimes you have to meet people where they at, At the same time honor your boundaries”.
-GLC the Ism
I have to admit my energy has been all over the place lately. And today I’m in one strange mood. I always get like this when my finances aren’t in the right order. I wish I would have taken another bar gig when I had them on the table. Now, look at me, wondering how can I get another bar gig. If I should even get another bar gig? Should I go back into retail? All of this plus my vivid dreams of guys that I have dated in my past. What does this mean? Me being the curious thing I am, I googled it. I don’t miss any of my ex's personally, but in some ways, I do miss the way they all treated me. But I would never go back not even to “This One.” See the irony in this? All the more reasons why not to date her.
I lied when I said I didn’t want to date anymore for the rest of 2018. So here goes to the first guy I started dating after “This one” and after “DJ.” Ladies and Gents meet “The Promoter.” Now I didn’t want to date anyone in the industry, but he gets me. He understands that I have might have to get my booty rubbed on to get that extra $100 tip while doing bottle service. He understands the grind the hustle I put into working within the service industry.
Moreover when I complain I about my job, he always turns it into a positive and makes me see the bigger picture. But the fact that he wants to now slow down on spending time together because he needs to get his life in order makes me feel a way. Even though after our first date how I expressed to him maybe we should just be friends. When it comes down to it, all it took was a simple face to face conversation, some great makeup sex, and for him to tell me that right now I’m number 1. See the irony in this? All the more reasons why not to date her.
Besides the promoter, there is also “The Jamaican.” After my last altercations with a Jamaican and Haitian in New York, I stopped dating any West Indie people. Until he changes his perspective on my career choice, I could never see myself long-term with him. The sex is amazing, but I will continue only to date him. Had my second experience with a football player. He stood me up on our first date because I told him that I didn’t want to have sex with him on the first night. Unless you are throwing money, my answer will be no. I didn’t even fuck “The Jamaican” or “The Promoter” on the first night. But I did have to tell another guy that I don’t suck dick because the sex was wack only to make him leave. See the irony in this? All the more reasons why not to date her.
After getting that strange letter in the mail regarding my trademark, It’s time for me to buckle down and focus. Had a great event planning session and proud to say, my next event will be December 9th. Everything happens for a reason. I like the bar/club that I am working at because of the connections I am making. Even though the money isn’t always there, I will continue to stay. Had the pleasure of serving some great Athletics, Rappers, Actors, and Actresses. I know how to network and will always stand behind, “Your network is your net worth.” Like my homie, GLC told me, “Shine baby. Patience is a virtue”. And honestly, I don’t have a choice but to let this little light of mine shine. See the irony in this? All the more reasons why not to date her.
“We all have story to tell. Its just the way you go about doing it. ”. -2 am Thoughts
A lot has changed in the past month. Basically, it was my cleaning up house month. Cubs season is officially over. I’m moving to a different apartment soon. I made a life-changing decision for my body and health. I’m deciding which bar I would like to continue the rest of the year at. And I am officially done with “This One.” There were a couple of days where I found myself stressing over my choices. But then I thought to myself, these are not bad things to stress about. These are good things. At times you might to have to take a couple of steps back to put you right where you need to be in the future. See the irony in this? All the more reasons why not to date her.
As a woman, you should always listen to your intuition. And my intuition about “This One” was clear. For the third time, he has wasted my time. I knew he was dating but didn’t know he was a serious committed relationship. All it took was a lie and a scenario and boom! I caught him up. I told him that I met a girl who claimed they were in a relationship together. I even described how the girl looked. He said, “impossible because the girl that I’m with was with me last night.” Before you knew it, all hell broke loose on my end. I’m not upset at the fact that he is in a relationship. I’m more upset at the point he didn’t tell me. They have been together for 3 months. But we have hung out in those three months. As much as I don’t want to believe, this situation-ship was tonic too. I wasn’t strong enough to say no in certain instances thus him assuming that I would be okay with him having his cake and eating it too. I was sad for a bit, but like others, I will get over him as well. See the irony in this? All the more reasons why not to date her.
Of course, I moved on someone else. Someone is who is my type, “Renaissance Man.” I met “Renaissance Man” during a shift at the club. We went out for a cocktail at 2 am. I liked our conversation, I liked him. He was my total package deal, and he lived four buildings down from me. I decided to see go him one Sunday after work. I also decided to drink a lot on Sunday after work. I was horny, still hurt from “This One” and was ready! I slightly blacked out and apparently told him, “I charge for sex but I not gonna charge you.” Two days later I texted him and told him we should be friends he didn’t agree, but it's for the best. For the rest of this year, I’m going to stick to the dudes that I do know and that includes fucking around with “DJ” once again. See the irony in this? All the more reasons why not to date her.
I’m happy to be surrounded by black women in power again. At the company I use to work, my operations manager was a black woman. At the club, both of my managers are black women. It’s a difference working for black women because they genuinely see the potential in you and gives you extra gems in life to succeed in that industry. I love working in the bar/service industry. And not a lot of people can say they actually enjoy what they do. I was having dinner with one of my best friends, and she also loves the work she does, and that’s the only reason why she is still with her company. But we know how to make money, we know how to run operations, why aren’t we out trying to own something? See the irony in this? All the more reasons why not to date her.
“I’m not here to suck on anybody’s dick. Sorry I got my own shit to worry about”.
When I left corporate, I wanted to be in an industry where I can be myself. And I found that being in the bar life. Yes, like any industry you have ups and downs. The most important factor is to always remember not to lose yourself in the money. Meaning being happy in whatever establishment you decide to work in. You being happy equals better tips and more money. But you have to be satisfied and enjoy the environment that you are in. I have already established that I am not fine dinning material. Not that I can’t be. I just don’t want to be. Call it me being stuck in my ways, but I enjoy the simple menus and fast, quick, tasteful cocktails. See the irony in this? All the more reasons why not to date her.
As baseball season starts to dwindle down, I have to think of my next steps. Ideally, I would like to work at three different bars. Three different clienteles, three different environments, three different ways I can make money. Three different bars five days out the week. Maybe if I feel up to it, I can pick up an extra shift or two on my off days. As of now, I’m in control of my money. I dictate which establishments have certain days. It’s all about having some type of control in my life so I can focus on my brand. When I was working at a bar and corporate, I felt I had no control over my life. I was working 7 days out the week and didn’t have any time to myself. And we all need that “time to ourselves.” Time to regroup, meditate, shed off the energy and vibes from others especially working in a customer service face to face industry. See the irony in this? All the more reasons why not to date her.
I told myself the rest of these months in 2018 will be to set myself up for 2019. I have bigger dreams and bigger goals. It sucks some days not having a companion. But I have some sort of peace of mind when it comes to dating and not worry about if he's out there fucking another chick or not. Like the fantastic actress, Eartha says, “A relationship is a relationship that has to be earned not to compromise for.” “I fell in love with myself, and I want someone to share me with me.” See the irony in this? All the more reasons why not to date her.
Definition of table
: a piece of furniture consisting of a smooth flat slab fixed on legs
b (1) : a group of people assembled at or as if at a table
(2) : a legislative or negotiating session
(2) : an act or instance of assembling to eat : meal
I am officially done with retail yet once again. I got another job at a brand new bar with a club like atmosphere just like I wanted. It’s crazy when I thought was on the verge of getting deeper into my depression, I get something I wanted. It feels good to know that I will be working in three different bars but will have two consistent days off in a row. I will be basically making my own schedule which is something I like versus waiting on waiting on different job schedules not knowing if I will actually have an off day or not. My mind is little more at ease, and once I start doing bottle service, my mind will be even more at ease. See the irony in this? All the more reasons why not to date her.
My career is finally getting back on track can’t say the same thing about my love life. It’s not one guy that can hold my interest at this point. And maybe it’s because of the depression. I haven’t heard from “My Love” in two months. Not surprised honestly. It’s been the same thing for eleven years. We get back on good terms for a couple of months then he goes ghost on me. And when I finally do talk back to him, he is in a whole relationship. It’s okay; I fell for it again. Time to move on officially. Went to the Happy Place with “This One.” I thought he was going to agree to come up and cuddle and finish talking, but he declined. At this point, I’m ready to throw in the towel. I’m not hanging out with someone who makes me question my worth as a woman or has me looking in the mirror thinking, “what’s wrong with me?” “Why doesn’t he like me like that?” At this point it’s toxic. And I’ve had enough of toxic relationships in my life. See the irony in this? All the more reasons why not to date her.
It’s like I been saying, “you gotta know when to leave the table when you are no longer being served.” I left retail because I didn’t have the passion for it anymore. And corporate life isn’t for me and my personality. And though sometimes I may get a little anxiety talking to tables, after that first greeting I’m golden. If the things aren’t going anywhere between “This One” and I then it’s time for me to leave the situationship where it is. Looking at the expensive vibrator, he brought me for Christmas contemplating if I should throw it away or not. Remembering the reason why I stopped using it because I use to always think of him. When I told him I don’t use it anymore, he said, “let me know when you miss it.” I’m sorry sir but did I not invite you upstairs to cuddle which is an open invitation for sex. And after a year of sitting at this table, the dick is no longer being served. Friendship is okay but can you honestly have a friendship with someone you thought you could see yourself long terms with? See the irony in this? All the more reasons why not to date her.
Just a perspective on my life right now. There is a deeper side of me besides the men I date. These are challenges that I face on a day to day basis. Hoping this inspires the next person. Just know you are not alone in this…..
Some days I’m fine I can cope with the world. I feel like everything is going to be okay. I’m pushing through all the obstacles in my life. I’m not worried or stressed about anything because I know everything will turn out in my favor. Then its days like today, where I wake up and feel everything is a horrible dream. How am I going to make it through this month or next? I went on countless job interviews but no one is calling me back. I don’t want to be around anyone. I just want to lay in bed and be by myself. I’m more to myself than I ever was before. I know I have to keep moving because that is the only way to survive through this depression. But damn, all I can think about is “when will it be my time”. See the irony in this? All the more reasons why not to date her.
It’s kinda hard when you are on both sides of the fence when it comes to this protest today. One part of me thinks this is going to suck because I’m not going to make money but the other part of me understands why this is taking place and the area its taking place in. I can’t say I’m not nervous about today. And I always think about what if I encounter the wrong table that is more outspoken. I can tell when a table doesn’t want me as their server. But I’m always polite and go the extra mile. What if today is that day I do encounter the outspoken table. I logged off facebook because of the comments pertaining the protest. One person even commented how he will be standing on the sideline with water balloons filled with kitty litter and water. And what’s sad is I might have to serve these people today. Lately, I’m having “eye opening days”. And today was my “eye opening day” about the world. Everyone around me keeps reassuring that I will be okay. But will I really be okay? See the irony in this all the more reasons why not to date her.
“Think I’m truly over the friends with benefits stage in my life”
-My 1am Thoughts
Finally going back to work after being off for the week. Being off for a week kind of put some things in perspective and I was able to go on a couple of job interviews. Praying and staying positive that something will fall through. But for now, it’s all about budgeting and maintaining the main bills. I’m still trying to figure out how to finance this next event. Those thoughts always make me want to sign up for an online site geared towards sugar babies. See the irony in this? All the more reasons why not to date her.
Spending this time off work has given me a lot of alone time. I started to think about dating and the people whom I attract. They all want something sexual from me and to hang out from time to time but none of them actually want to be in a serious relationship with me. How do I get them to see that I’m more than just a “fun girl”. I have said this before, “Date me with a purpose”. And now that I am on this whole weight loss peaceful mindset journey, this is the right time for me to practice what I preach. Last night I received five different phones/texts from guys that I mess around with. I choose to ignore, masturbate, go to sleep and woke up the next day to go to the gym. This was all after meditating. So maybe that's what I need to do. I have never felt so balanced after that. See the irony in this? All the more reasons why not to date her.
Deep down I was honestly using sex as a way for a guy to validate if I’m attractive or not. But after being on these job interviews and seeing how energy glows, I don’t need it. I ‘m a very sexual person. But I can't keep running around giving it up to every guy that comes along pretends that he is charming and has a big dick. As a young black independent woman, I have to want more than that. One thing I’ve noticed is how protective I was at the gym today of my shoulder. Even when I was the on the bus I held onto the rails very tight because of the fear of trying to brace myself if I fall. Why is it so hard for me as a woman to be that protective of my energy and time when it comes to men? See the irony in this? All the more reasons why not to date her.
“Good things comes to those who wait”.....-Unknown Person
So it wouldn't be life if I didn't have another major event to happen to me. I dislocated my shoulder and had to call off work for a whole entire week. I cried, screamed, and wanted to pass out. "WHAT THE FUCK!", I thought. How could this be happening? I thought I was on a roll with my life. Doing new things. Working two jobs again. But everything happens for a reason. And whatever this reason is, def has me sitting at home rethinking my life decisions. See the irony in this? All the more reasons why not to date her.
When men are sat in their ways, there is no trying to change them. They may change how they do things with you or towards you but their character will stay the same. And at that moment you gotta realize when to step away or stay. But if you stay you risk wasting your time. Like I said, this week has me re-thinking some life decisions. I think it's time for me to completely break it off with "My Love". After 11 years, he will never change. After 11 years I'm still not the only one. The whole phrase, "I'm good luv enjoy" came out last night in a text after asking who he was going out of town with. Say I'm overreacting if you want to. But ladies let's be real, if he wasn't going out of town with a female then he would have answered the question instead of being argumentative. Here I am in between jobs and with a fractured shoulder and he goes out of town with another female. But then I should have known when he ex-baby mama asked him to pay her rent. See the irony in this? All the more reasons why not to date her.
Chicago men are interesting. Yesterday I was walking home from the hair shop. Had my arm in a sling. Minding my own business, I hear "I would fuck the shit out of you with that broken arm shorty".If I wasn't in a crippled state of mind, I would’ve ran. Went out for tacos on Monday with "This One". Nothing sexual happened. But I do miss spending time with him. My best friend asked me would I ever consider going back into a situation-ship with him. And to be honest people, I would but not right now. He is still in the process of trying to find a condo to buy and me, I'm still in between jobs. We both are not ready yet. But I do still masturbate to the thought of him and I having very nasty disrespectful sex. Maybe one we will have a conversation about the future with us but until then I will value our friendship more than anything. See the irony in this? All the more reasons why not to date her.
Besides dating, my financial stability also gives me anxiety. And it’s because of the industry I work in. One week you can make over 2,000 and the next you may make only 300. I like working in the industry because I like connecting with people and never know who you may meet. I don't want to work two jobs right now. But if I had to, I wouldn't mind working at two different bars. So here I am stuck between my vision for my life, my goals, and my financial freedom. The best advice that was given to me this week was from my hair stylist. She said, "Tati don't let your pride get in the way of your money". As a black independent young woman, I have hella PRIDE! But if I want work for myself by the time I'm 30, then I have to make a step back. So I am finishing this post up. Getting ready for an interview with a fractured shoulder and a small chat with my old GM. See the irony in this? All the more reasons why not to date her.
More than just a blogger is what she calls herself. Tatiana at the current age of 26 has built a blog based on her life. She touches on juggling love relationships, dating, family, and a successful career. Trying to find the common ground balance of them of all, she finds herself in sticky situations every time. Although she is learning to see the brighter side of things and holding herself accountable of her life, Tatiana is hoping her growth in her 20s will leave a powerful impact amongst other young women out there.