#thestartup

“Him: Why are you single? I mean you are gorgeous, hard worker, you got your own, and no kids! So you mean to tell me no guy has wifed you yet?

Me: Because I ain’t shit literally…”

I did the first thing I said I wasn’t going to do in 2019 and that's having sex with someone that I have no emotional ties to. Why I did it? A temptation of course. Was it good? It was average. Could I see myself with him? Possibly, but the fact of the matter he knows someone else that I also mess around with is taunting me. I am aware that eventually, I do need to make a decision on which one I am going to fuck with. But until one of them wants to be exclusive with me, I’m going to keep this going. See the irony in this? All the more reasons why not to date her.

2018 opened my eyes a lot. I was broken down at my lowest and was forced to ask for help financially. You might look at me and say, “damn Tati is a true go-getter.” And though that statement might be very true, I can not forget the times that I cried scrapping up money to pay rent. I don't regret ANY decisions I’ve made in 2018. Why? Because those lessons also set my future and placed me in a position to network even harder. My mom always asks me what my end goal is. And I always tell her, my end goal is this blog. Funny thing is in 2018 I kept running into people who have asked me the same question. Because like her they believe its something more to me than bar/nightlife. I can not express enough how much I love what I do. I can not express enough how proud I am of myself with making a jump from up north sports bars to semi-upscale bar/nightclubs. And though there are sometimes where you do get tested, and caddy situations can arise; I am telling myself if it doesn’t make me money, it doesn’t make me happy. Therefore I don’t want any parts of it. See the irony in this? All the more reasons why not to date her.

Any guy that I have dealt with in a significant way hit me up, and I’ve spent time with them during the last week in 2018. “My Love” popped up at my house while I was on a date with the guy I mentioned earlier. Same shit with “My Love” that its always going to be. He is not moving to Chicago, and I’m not moving to Indianapolis, and he doesn't want to do a long distance relationship. After our vicious feud at my job, “The Promoter” and I are slightly talking again. We agreed two wrongs don’t make a right, but I still can’t get over the fact he felt I was pushing him into a relationship. Oh Boy! If could see the number of texts that come through my phone daily, maybe he would understand I make every guy feel like that way. My “New York Boo Thang” never fails me when he comes to Chicago. Fancy dinner, fancy hotel room, and a flight to either Miami or New York next month. I like him. But like me, he works A LOT! However, someone has to secure the bag for artists to come in and do bottle service right? And last but not least, “This One.” I know I told yall that I have stopped talking to him, but I thought him and his girl was over with because he never mentions her. FALSE! I sold him a table for NYE and who does he bring with him? His girl! It took everything in me not to be petty and lash out. And a part of me was hurt when I saw them kiss. But I was the bigger person and introduced myself to her, gave her a hug, and thanked her for coming out. In the end, I don’t think he wanted to introduce us but if we are “friends” what is the problem? So I’m taking that as a sign just to leave him alone. See the irony in this? All the more reasons why not to date her.

2019 is nothing but daily affirmations for me, bigger goals, and events galore for my blog! By the way get your tickets now for Ladies Night Out Jan 20th ladiesnightoutexperience.eventbrite.com. I’m excited about this event but even more excited about my future. I am going after anything I want. There will be no holdbacks! And if you still wondering why not to date me after reading this, then grab a seat and pour some wine because I have a lot more to say. See the irony in this? All the more reasons why not to date her.