“I don't think you give yourself enough credit when you are doing good. No need to be hard on yourself all the time”. -My dearest friend and mentor, Mo
I was very hesitant to share my news with the world. Only because I know some people are or will pray for your downfall. But when I think about all the setbacks I have when it comes to this brand or my life in general, I have no choice but to keep going. Throughout this entire COVID situation, I have learned to remain humble and how not to take things for granted in life. Moreover, I have learned the value of staying positive, being patient, and listening to the universe. A lot has changed for me in 2020 from switching careers to loving every aspect of myself as a woman. See the irony in this? All the more reasons why not to date her.
“Here we go….”
I am proud to announce dontdate-her.com is an official LLC and I hold all trademarks to this brand. It was a long time coming but I felt this is something that had to be done. As my hair stylist told me, “This is something that no one can take away from you”. And she is right. I want to share this only because I’ve had so many people in my corner during this time rooting for me and I just want to be the living proof: No matter how many times life throws you lemons and even though sometimes those lemons hurt, MAKE LEMONADE! Restarting back dontdate-her.com was me making regular lemonade. Now that it's an actual company, I’m making pink lemonade. And I’m going to continue to make every flavor lemonade as possible with these lemons that life continues to throw at me. See the irony in this? All the more reasons why not to date her.
“I thought about it, I wanted to address it. But then again I’m cool....
You won, enjoy!”
I keep saying this and I’m going to continue saying this time and time again, healing is a JOURNEY! This month I have learned that I must be open to changing the way I respond to things. And to be honest I really would like to thank my friend circle aka GANG for keeping me grounded and checking me on this. You know you won when you are okay with your side of the story not being told correctly. And that is something I had to learn; saying okay and moving on. Rather it’s friendships, relationships, and our favorite trauma bonds. Just say okay and move on. This is one lemon life has thrown at me many times. And to be honest I have failed at this lesson in life until one day I had to do what I had to do. And guess what, I made some bomb ass blueberry lemonade out of it. See the irony in this? All the more reasons why not to date her.
P.s. This isn’t my glow up phase yet. Just a Lil spark…..
“Growth is when you start checking and correcting yourself. Instead of blaming others, you take your power back by being responsible for your life”- An Instagram Meme
After my Blog Anniversary, I spent some time in Indianapolis with “My Love”. This is a man I have known since I was 17. This is a man that taught me everything about intimate sex. This is a man that any given day I would drop everything for and run to. It has been a year since we spent time together. I was more nervous than excited and did not know what to expect. "My Love” is very particular. He would be the type of guy that would come over and rearrange the seasonings in my cabinet (seriously that man so very organized). Although we love each other deeply, we simply are not ready for one other yet. We both have some deep-down emotional things to get over. And once we heal from those past traumas, then maybe we could one day continue our future together. See the irony in this? All the more reasons why not to date her.
“Me repeating to myself, sanity and peace over some dick, sanity, and peace over some dick”...
The real growth is not responding to foolishness from the bitter woman in his life. Maybe a couple of months ago, I would have. But since I am on this journey of healing, my sanity and peace are worth so much more than some dick. And even though "The Light Skin Fella" continues to apologize for her actions, maybe one day I can forgive him for everything. And when I think about it, that’s real growth; learning how to forgive others so I can become a better woman. However, an apology ain’t shit without a changed behavior and promises can be broken without a commitment. See the irony in this? All the more reasons why not to date her.
“Girl, do it for you!”
This healing process isn’t just a journey but more of a rebranding structure for my life. If I would have told you how I felt as a woman a couple of months ago, would you believe anything that I said? This journey has taught me how to overcome all my demons from my childhood and young adulthood. It forced me to face certain characteristics about myself. I was never the type of person that could be alone. But this time, I had no choice but to be alone and to be alone with my thoughts. There was a moment during an entire month, I felt angry at the world and angry at myself. I found myself sometimes frustrated with the choices I have made in life. But, when I look back at those choices, I’m happy that I did make them. All those choices helped to develop me into the woman I am now. And when you have that thought process in your mind, a new confidence as a woman emerges. So the photos I took to rebrand this is more than just being sexy in lingerie. It’s showing complete confidence in me, a woman I thought I lost. This is me..this is the “REBRAND”. See the irony in this? All the more reasons why not to date her.