"All of your hard work will soon pay off. Just keep pushing!"
- Late Night Uber Ride Thoughts
It's like this friends, I don't know where to begin with this blog post. All I know is, I'm TIRED! I wouldn't say mentally tired, but physically I am tired. It's been a lot going on lately with me as far as my career goes, so let me bring you guys up to speed. If you know personally, then you know I always keep another job on deck. So with indoor dining opening back up, you know ya girl had to go back in the service industry. I took on the role of acting Bar Manager for a new restaurant concept. With my book being out, it just makes more sense. I love both of the industries I'm in. It just gets tough sometimes trying to have a work-life balance with my own brand. My off days aren't my off days anymore. My off days are for creating content and building out more for this blog, this brand, my little "Black Owned Business." See the irony in this? All the more reasons why not to date her.
"Don't Disturb me if you aren't ready for me. I'm a whole ass blessing, not a fling".
-Some Instagram Meme
It was the charismatic charm, good morning everyday text, gun on the coffee table, me grinding on top of while he tonguing me down, feeding him tacos, and making Don Julio Anejo margaritas. It was his westside dangerous lifestyle that made me want to open my legs up to him. But I didn't. Instead, here we are, blocking each other on social media and me wanting to knock his head off in the club. My "Scammer Bae." He was something different from what I was used to, which made me attracted to him. That is also what made me say, "Nah, I'm cool on you." And maybe me coming to crib drunk one night is what made him say, "He is cool on me too." Who knows! All I know is I got a lot of shit going on, and I refuse to be blindsided by someone who can't see "The Goddess" in me. See the irony in this? All the more reasons why not to date her.
"Enjoy yourself; that's what your 20's are for. Your 30's are to learn the lessons, and your 40's are to pay for the drinks".
- Carey Bradshaw Sex and The City
Well, I'd be damned! I'm turning 30 next week. I'm having a lot of anxiety about it. Maybe the thoughts of not knowing what to expect when I turn 30. Perhaps it's the thought of me not achieving everything I wanted to accomplish in my 20's. I had a small conversation with a co-worker, expressing to him how I felt about turning 30. He said, "T, from the outside looking in, you have accomplished a lot. More than others. Take this time to be excited about turning 30. Think of it as your new chapter in life. Go into your 30th year knowing you already have a head start on everything you want to accomplish. Stop holding back! Go in and Go crazy! Be more ferocious! And to be honest, the photoshoot I just did proved it all. See the irony in this? All the more reasons why not to date her.
"It's like Tiffany's. And nothing bad can ever happen at Tiffany's".
-Breakfast at Tiffany's
Even though I'm working like crazy, things didn't turn out quite like I expected with "Scammer Bae" and given an anxious feeling turning 30, I have to make sure I'm on Shirley Valentine flow. Meaning no matter what obstacles life may throw at me when it comes to relationships and dealing with people as a whole, I must keep going. In the end, when I finally do reach my destination, maybe my husband will come to find me. And when he does, perhaps he won't recognize me. Because by then, I will have become the ferocious woman I am in my 30's. See the irony in this? All the more reasons why not to date her.
"The best investment you can make is an investment in yourself. The more you learn, the more you'll earn."
- Warren Buffett
It's like this; I don't know where my sexual drive has gone. I searched everywhere and can't seem to find it. I believe I lost it around the time I was writing and publishing my book in November. It was around the same time, "My Love," and I fell out. Deep down, I didn't want any distractions and wanted to get my book out before thinking about anything else. I can honestly say seeing your brand grow into something big like a book is a huge confidence booster. I am not trying to say any guy who does not have their brand is beneath me. But I'm damn sure not about to give no man any pussy who can't buy a book or support my brand in no type of way. See the irony in this? All the more reasons why not to date her.
"I'm pretty sure someone is going to read this and say WTF is Tati thinking right now. Shorty is crazy".
- My 1:30 am Thoughts While Writing This.
So here I am about to masturbate to the thought of "My New Guy" giving me the best head like he usually does, and guess what, I CAN'T DO IT. I even tried to look at old videos of myself and "The Light Skin Fella," and guess what, I CAN'T DO IT. Finally, I decided to masturbate to the thought of "My Love," and I have some amazing makeup sex, and I DID IT! But after I was done, I questioned I was truly ready to have sex with him again. The next day, I got a call from my "Scammer Boo." He cashapp me for three books and a little more for groceries. And to my surprise, me, myself, and pornhub had a field day that day. See the irony in this? All the more reasons why not to date her.
"The best revenge is to boss up physically, mentally, and financially."
- Some Instagram meme
Is this what happens to every woman that is in the entrepreneur glow phase? Do they only date men who can show support on the spot or whenever needed? Is this why most of the stereotypical woman CEOs and VPs are either single for a very long time or divorced? Is this what B Simone meant when she expressed her interest in only dating entrepreneur men? Or is it just me? It will be a month on Saturday since I released my book. And who would think all the men that are in the book aren't my type anymore. Surprise! I never lacked. I just transitioned. See the irony in this? All the more reasons why not to date her.
“2021 is going to pay for my creativity” -2 AM Thoughts
This is my first new year's eve not working at a bar and not going out to party. Tonight is the first night in a couple of months where I have time to sit, be still, and be to myself, and do absolutely nothing but write. You wouldn't believe it, people, but my book took every little thing out of me. And while working two jobs, I was long overdue for a nice bubble bath, some manifestation sayings, and a glass of wine. I found myself mentally tired and too exhausted.
This year, I have learned three things:
1. You are not going to get the closure or the explanation you think you deserve.
2. Sometimes you have to accept something for what it is and move on.
3. Everything really does happen for a reason.
At the beginning of 2020, I was this frustrated person who didn't know what route to take in my life. I had a lot of opportunities as far as jobs but nothing career-wise. Covid hit the US, and although it broke my industry, it opened an immense opportunity for me in the cannabis world. It also forced me to take my blog during the quarantine and turn it into an actual business. I took all the necessary steps to rebuild the brand and structure it into a real business. Thus far leading me to publish my first book. I sought out therapy because I was broken as a woman and needed help healing. And even though none of my relationships worked out with any of the men, I dated in 2020, at least they can never say I wasn't an AINT SHIT AS WOMAN! See the irony in this? All the more reasons why not to date her.
“Six Months of focus and hustle can change your life forever”- Instagram Meme
When I was little, I always told people that I would be a superstar of some sort. I could make it BroadWay. The little girl with the deep raspy voice who loved barbies, wearing purses, and with a big imagination is living out her dreams. If there were a thing I would tell my younger self is, never stop being you; unique and different. That is what is going to take us far in life. See the irony in this? All the more reasons why not to date her.
“Best revenge is to boss up physically, mentally, and financially”-Convo with the girls
So here we are, friends, fifteen minutes to midnight! And I am walking into 2021 with more confidence as a woman ever. A Bald head, Bad-ass bitch! A writer, an author, and a business owner. A woman with amazing friends, family, coworkers all rooting for me! And the first time in a long. I am happy! Cheers to 2021! May every lesson be an immense blessing, and let no locked doors stop the show! Keep on pushing! See the irony in this? All the more reasons why not to date her!